Relationship articles and resources for the Fifty and Over:
Class Reunions are Happening Again!
Class reunions are happening again. This results in feelings of anxiety for many people who open the mail and see the announcement of their upcoming class reunion. Anxious thoughts come for many reasons – often for Boomers and Seniors it’s about attending alone. Continue Reading…
5 First-date Mistakes to Avoid
When you are over 50 and starting to date after a divorce or the death of a partner, you may feel a little adrift. You realize things have changed a lot since your old dating days, but you’re not quite sure of the new rules of the game. You may even wonder whether it’s worth the hassle of trying to meet someone new. “I’m here to tell you that, yes, it is,” says the author. Dr. Schwartz offers five tips on dating after 50. Read the article here.
Dating After 60: You Still Got It!
Dating as a Boomer is different than dating as a 20 or 30-something. No less exciting, just different. When we are past of career building years and beyond parenting, we must change our expectations as well as our approach to the dating world. Romance and sexual activity are important throughout one’s life. Unfortunately, however, many boomers and seniors have given up on the notion of having romance and sex in their later years. They think that they are “too old for that sort of stuff” and have all but given up on thinking that they will have a romantic partner and sexual life in their later years. I wish I could dispel that notion. Romance and sexual activity can be a part of your life until you die! Read the article here.
Am I Going To Date Forever?
This is a question that date-fatigued boomer women frequently ask, sometimes right before deciding to quit dating. Although taking a break is a quick fix for date fatigue, the magnitude of boomer dating burnout warrants a discussion deeper than weariness. The author shares what he has gleaned from dating, date coaching, and thousands of comments on my dating articles from his Huff/Post 50 readers. Read the article here.
The Undeclared Dating War
The author contends that many men are amongst the walking wounded, suffering from failed relationships, who have declared an unspoken war with women. The result is that is that it has created an unnecessary tension between men and women in the dating arena. This article is intended as a wake up call and not solely to help men date more successfully. It’s about the invaluable relationship lessons learned from authentic friendships, the intrinsic value of unconditional camaraderie and the type of support only other men can offer a man. A man without authentic friends lives in an emotional vacuum.
The simplest way to end the undeclared war is for boomer men and women to date on an even playing field. To that end, it would help if the boomer guys who lack relationship skills, develop some, preferably with other men. I urge women to be patient with men who make the effort. Make love, not war, remember? Read the article here.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Dating After 50
“My situation is fairly typical. After juggling two children and a demanding job, my first marriage ended in divorce. I had given it some hard thinking, but my relationship with my husband, which began when we were both in college, really couldn’t make it for the long haul. So I opted out…Thus began a long period …, in which I helped usher my two daughters into adulthood, and devoted more attention to my career. But I was awfully lonely. It didn’t help that I went straight home from work every night and stayed in on weekends.”
In this article the author tells us of her journey into the dating world and shares with us what she has learned. Read the article here.
Before You Give Up On Dating, Read This
The author claims, “I make very few guarantees, but as they say in advertising ‘I can virtually guarantee’ there is someone out there for you. Perhaps a diamond in the rough, an unexpected stranger, or dare I say it… your mother’s friend’s son (oy vey). It might even be an old pair of shoes that with a good spit polish will dance you off into the sunset.” Read the article here.
Whether using email, texting, Twitter, Facebook, or other social media, people are constantly looking for ways to connect with friends and family. People boast about the number of LinkedIn connections, Facebook friends, Twitter followers. People text when at restaurants, in theaters and movies, at concerts, on the bus, or even when walking down the street. There is even an app designed to keep these text-walkers from bumping into each other as they text. The psychologist-author of this article raises the question of whether people are starved for connection or whether social media is the cause or the solution for feeling disconnected. Read the article here.
The Power of Love Scripts
If your romantic relationships follow a repetitive pattern that’s confusing to you, it’s time to acquaint yourself with the power of love scripts. This article provides three examples of how love scripts get played out. Continue reading…
Why do boomers divorce so much more than everyone else?
The national divorce rate has been hovering around 50% until 1996. Since then the divorce has been dropping to about 40% EXCEPT for Boomers. Their divorce rate been going UP since 1996. In this article, Dr. Bella DePaulo, a visiting professor at UCSB, discusses some of the reasons for this phenomenon. Continue reading….
The “It” Word in Just Do It!￼
JUST DO IT! Stop complaining. Stop procrastinating. Stop whining. Nike got it right. It usually takes more time and energy to resist doing something than to just do it. Continue reading…
I Think I’ve Forgotten How to Date
There you are, staring at yourself in the bathroom. Then, unsure, you seek a fuller picture and go straight to the full-length mirror in the bedroom. Gut check. Front and back. Could be worse. Could be better too, but let’s not quibble. Continue reading…
Getting Someone You Love to Change
Sometimes the more you try to make something happen, the less success you have. This is often true when you’re trying to get someone you love to change. The change you wish for may make a good deal of sense. Continue reading…
…But I Love Him!
One of the best things about “being in love” is that you feel really good about yourself. It’s not only that you perceive the other person as terrific; it’s that you feel terrific about who you are and what you’re about. Yes, emotions are contagious. Continue reading…
Two Sides to Every Story
Of course you’re smart enough to know that there are two sides to every story. But is that what you’re focused on when you’re in the midst of a heated argument? I doubt it! Not if the rational part of your brain has skipped town leaving the emotional part in charge. Continue reading…
Gay, Older and Dating: I have survived, now what?
If you are reading this, you may be an older gay, lesbian, trans or bisexual person – which in our community could be anyone over 40 – and looking for love. Continue reading…
The Importance of Validation
On Oprah’s final episode of her wildly popular TV show, she highlighted the importance of validation. “I’ve talked to nearly 30,000 people on this show and all 30,000 had one thing in common. They all wanted validation.” Validation. What is it? Continue reading…
Constructing a Conversation
A game of catch goes nowhere unless you have a partner who catches the ball and throws it back to you. Similarly, a conversation goes nowhere unless you have a partner who listens to what you’re saying and responds in a way that keeps the conversation going. Continue reading…
FREE FOR ALL!….a May-December Relationships
May-December relationships are common in life, but not easily accessible in online dating. Old barriers have fallen and disappeared in today’s dating and marriage world. Gay marriage, Cougar dating, Young ladies dating and marrying older men, have now become the common happenings in everyday lifestyles. Continue reading…