Online Dating Challenges When You’re 50 plus

Are you single and wanting to meet someone? Not sure what kind of relationship you’re looking for?  Do you need to locate someone to share your house, along with the rent? Are you seeking a friend who likes to go out to restaurants, or to the movies? Maybe you’re looking for someone to share your travels.

Couple on hikeWe each have an innate need to connect with other people….and sometimes we’re not really sure what role those relationships should fill. Looking for romance and a long term relationship is easy for some. However, many mature people who have had long term relationships or marriages and are not ready to get involved with a serious long term relationship….but they don’t like being alone either.

We suggest that people start by looking for a friend or companion. You should complete the profiles of what your own characteristics are, and fill in your basic wants in a friend, companion or travel buddy. Next you can start searching around the site to see if you find someone of interest. That’s the start.

A recent article in The New York Times noted that dating for people over 50 could be very daunting, and many have resorted to the use of matchmakers to assist in the online dating process.

The match makers apparently use questionnaires to evaluate and help each person decide on what they want rather than having people organically evolve in their own time and from their own intuitive sense.

People are paying thousands of dollars for match maker services because they are intimidated by online matching services. At people can do their own searching and are not limited to the 5 daily or weekly photos of singles in their area who have looked at their profiles. We offer the freedom to look around in order to locate people of interest.

I believe that many people are confused and unsure of what they want when they first enter the adventure of online meet-ups. But by doing their own search, they become more clear about what they don’t want, along with what they do want. We believe that people know themselves best and shouldn’t be guided by the results of a score on a questionnaire. By the time you’re 50+ you know better than an algorithm what you want in a mate, a travel companion or a friend.  At 50+ we do algorithms too, but I suggest you use your own personal expertise.

Elaine Rodino

Written by Elaine Rodino, Ph.D

Elaine is CEO of Senior Premier Dating LLC and is a licensed psychologist in private practice. She is a fellow of the American Psychological Association (APA), Pennsylvania Psychological Association and the Los Angeles Society of Clinical Psychologists. Dr. Rodino is a past president of the APA Divisions of Independent Practice, The Society for Media Psychology and Technology, Central Pennsylvania Psychological Association, Los Angeles County Psychological Association (LACPA), the Foundation of LACPA, and recipient of the Distinguished Lifetime Contribution to Media Psychology Award, and the Distinguished Service Award to LACPA. She has appeared on T.V. and radio and contributes to magazines, newspapers and online health sites on issues regarding Couples, Relationships, Sandwich Generation, Holiday Blues, and other popular topics.

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