online-dating-safetyOnline dating is now the way of meeting new people.  It seems everyone is doing online dating.  It’s no longer new.  It’s no longer scary.  But…maybe everyone is getting to “unscared” about online dating.   Maybe it’s getting too much of a familiar thing to do, so the usual safety tips get ignored and eventually forgotten.

We at 50PlusConnects.com think it’s important to remind dating site subscribers of the things to keep in mind when dating online.

Tip #1:  Don’t take it for granted that a photo that you see is exactly right.  Is the person using a photo from 5 or 10 years ago?  Or is it a photo of someone else?  Are there several photos?  Are there photos posted that include the person with friends and family?  Are the other people in the photos people with whom you can see yourself socializing?  Do you relate to the activities that you see going on in the photos?  How comfortable and connected is the person you’re going to meet with others in these photos?

Tip #2: It’s always best if you can find a mutual friend or acquaintance that can vouch for or legitimize the person’s history. Is there workplace information that verifies who the person really is.  Have you googled each other? Consider a background check

Tip #3:  After finding each other online, and chatting back and forth through the website, the next step can be chatting by email and talking by phone.  Does all this still feel good without any red flags?  Red flags should stop the process and time to move on to another “candidate”.

Don’t try to ignore the red flag just because you like some other traits.  Red flags are just that….they mean STOP!!!

Tip #4:  Now is the time to meet in person.  Here is where an important tip comes in.

By now, there is probably sharing information about your fun things to do, favorite coffee shops, favorite place to have a glass of wine, etc.. My advice is Do Not make one of these favorite places the venue for your first meeting.  Wondering why I recommend this?  It’s because meeting a prospective date is an important part of this entire process.  People can look great on paper, or talk up an exciting phone conversation, look great in photos, but the chemistry of meeting in person is most telling.  Same reason most jobs require at least one in-person interview.

So, why my tip about not meeting in a venue that you usually enjoy?  Because, if you don’t enjoy the connection with this person, you will continue to run into them afterward, and this can be awkward.  So why ruin your comfort in enjoying your favorite coffee shop?

50PlusConnects.com offers ways to connect for dating, to find a travel companion, a house sharing mate or just a friend.  Take the process seriously, but also make it a fun time…even if you don’t find the man or woman of your dreams, you may find a fun friend.  Be safe and have a great time!

erodino

About erodino


Elaine Rodino, PhD., is CEO of Senior Premier Dating LLC, is a licensed psychologist in private practice. She is a fellow of the American Psychological Association (APA), Pennsylvania Psychological Association and the Los Angeles Society of Clinical Psychologists. Dr. Rodino is a past president of the APA Divisions of Independent Practice, The Society for Media Psychology and Technology, Central Pennsylvania Psychological Association, Los Angeles County Psychological Association (LACPA), the Foundation of LACPA, and recipient of the Distinguished Lifetime Contribution to Media Psychology Award, and the Distinguished Service Award to LACPA. She has appeared on T.V. and radio and contributes to magazines, newspapers and online health sites on issues regarding Couples, Relationships, Sandwich Generation, Holiday Blues, and other popular topics.


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