Are you alone for the holidays? Being single for the holidays can be stressful. For those who are newly divorced, separated, or widowed the holidays magnify the sense of loneliness and aloneness.

holiday-blues-snowflakeLoneliness for Boomers and Seniors occurs when they are isolated from other people, are lacking a good social support system, and don’t have other family members “looking after them” during the holiday time. Typically speaking, they are not invited to come over to the homes of non-family members.

Aloneness happens for the newly single boomers and seniors even though they may have many friends, family, and a social network. Yet, they have been so accustomed to having a partner at social activities, they just don’t know how to handle the holiday festivities as a single person.

Here are tips for dealing with Loneliness and Aloneness:

Loneliness:

  1. Join an organized group. This can be a church group, a political club, or a sporting group. These groups usually have their celebrations for the holidays. It’s also a place to find other singles or people who will want to include you in additional activities that they may be involved with.
  2. Check your local newspapers for holiday activities and events that might be hosted in your own neighborhood and attend these. You’re sure to meet new people and may continue a lasting friendship.
  3. Check online for activities that may be happening in your neighborhood. You may find specific parties or events for singles.

Aloneness:

  1. Talk with some of your friends about how you feel uncomfortable attending certain parties or events without a partner. You’re sure to gain reassurance.
  2. Ask friends if you can join them at an event. Your biggest apprehension may be walking into the event without a partner.
  3. Push yourself to attend even without knowing someone, or attend with a group.

Once at a party or event, you will certainly strike up conversations with others and end up enjoying yourself.

For all those who are new at being single it’s really important to not isolate yourself. Don’t sit and stare at the TV until the holidays are over. You will be happier if you take chances and risks, giving you the potential for making new friends or meeting a new partner.

50PlusConnects.com is especially sensitive to those who would like to partner up with someone to have as a companion or friend. I have already written about “Lite Dating.” To connect with someone shouldn’t mean you are looking for your “soul mate.” It’s means having someone enjoyable to be with and enjoy good times such as holidays. If you are a subscriber, or are going to subscribe, be sure to mention in your profile that you are looking for someone to simply spend time with: going to events, out to a movie, out for dinner, and so on.

50PlusConnects.com wishes all our readers a very Happy Holiday Season.

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About erodino


Elaine Rodino, PhD., is CEO of Senior Premier Dating LLC, is a licensed psychologist in private practice. She is a fellow of the American Psychological Association (APA), Pennsylvania Psychological Association and the Los Angeles Society of Clinical Psychologists. Dr. Rodino is a past president of the APA Divisions of Independent Practice, The Society for Media Psychology and Technology, Central Pennsylvania Psychological Association, Los Angeles County Psychological Association (LACPA), the Foundation of LACPA, and recipient of the Distinguished Lifetime Contribution to Media Psychology Award, and the Distinguished Service Award to LACPA. She has appeared on T.V. and radio and contributes to magazines, newspapers and online health sites on issues regarding Couples, Relationships, Sandwich Generation, Holiday Blues, and other popular topics.


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