Question (from Bill):
I am recently divorced after a 30 year marriage. I would like to date again but I don’t want a serious relationship yet. I don’t think I’m ready for that. On the other hand, I don’t want just a hooking up type of situation either. I feel lonely and would like to have someone to talk with, someone to go to the movies with, go to an informal dinner with. Many of the dating websites seem like you have to want to settle down and meet the love of your life. And, as I said, I don’t want to appear flaky.
Many people feel exactly the way you do. People who are newly divorced or widowed often need to go through a transition time of catching their bearings again in the world of being single. For you, 30 years have gone by since you were last single. You are not the same person you were 30 years ago, so you can’t expect yourself to suddenly be comfortable with dating or being single. Many newly single people want sometime to grieve their loss as well as to take time to plan the next stage of their life. Yet, people get lonely and want some closeness with another person. Many people report that they miss just being and talking with someone. Others miss some affection. They miss someone to hug or someone to be physically close. This isn’t necessarily sexual, it can be just warm affectionate nearness.
Our website, 50PlusConnects.com, is intended to serve all these needs of people who are wanting to connect, but on varying levels of closeness or commitment. Your desires can be stated clearly in the narrative section of the profile. That section is the perfect place to describe exactly what you’re looking for. This is the beauty of a site that offers so many things for people. It’s not just a dating site.